KNOW TO VALUE...

A man keeps a Rs.500 note safe inside his wallet but he wont mind keeping a Rs.10 note in the upper pocket of his shirt. WHY?? Because he knows that the value of 500 is much much bigger than 10 and that he should handle it with care. But somehow we forget to apply this in our personal lives! Sometimes we forget to value people and take them for granted.

Let me give u an eg., A boy, Rahul, comes to know that he has attained the job he had applied for. He takes out his mobile and sees that there is hardly any battery left. He thinks since he is going to reach home in an hour so he decides to first tell his friends about this good news rather than calling his parents. So he updates his orkut and facebook status. His neighbour friend reads his status and rushes to his home and congratulates Rahul’s parents. They were shocked! They come to know about such a good news from an outsider??!! They start feeling that may be now they aren’t that important to their son.
Rahul didn’t mean at all to hurt his parents. But unknowingly he hurt them!

Similarly, I’ll give one more eg., Say there are 2 childhood friends Sneha and Ayesha. They were so close that Ayesha did everything special for Sneha. Later, Ayesha finds Disha who helped her in a particular grave problem. Ayesha starts being very close to Disha. She tries to nourish and foster their friendship. And while doing this Sneha is neglected. Sneha, who has been her childhood friend, who helped her in all times, who was so deeply attached to Ayesha was now neglected for a month-old friend.
Even here, Ayesha isn’t purposely doing this. Its just that she isn’t understanding that while valuing Disha she de-valued Sneha!

Its probably a human tendency. Everyone must have had atleast one such experience. Basically what I want to convey is that sometimes people who are extremely important to us are taken for granted. Since we know that they wont leave us, that they would be there with us forever, we don’t mind hurting them! Sometimes we do overlook a special one’s care and love. But our small small negligence hurts somebody’s sentiments!
Rahul was very happy about his job! His friends, cousins were calling him up for congratulating, but his avoidance of not calling home because of the drained off battery badly upset his parents. Ayesha was very happy with her new friend-Disha, but she had no idea how miserable Sneha’s condition was!

I don’t say that that there should be only one special person in your life, but when another special person comes make sure that the second special person has its own place and the first has its own. But what happens usually is that we forget that before the second there was someone important first. Before the second helped, there was a first who helped you much more. Before the second there is a first who is waiting for you… We are so much impressed by the novelty of the second one that we DO take the first one for granted… And this hurts a lot!… Being taken for granted is one of the worst insults that happens! Definitely, we don’t intend to ignore that special person, but still we do and that is what distresses…

It hurts more when you are de-valued for someone else. Ayesha gave all her attention to a month-old friend but how could she forget the love and care of her one decade old friend??!! So whats the use of nourishing a friendship for 10 years?? The significance of both is same, isn’t it?? Sneha became special in 10 years and Disha became equally special in just 10 days??? Wont Sneha feel de-valued??? She would! Its same with Rahul, he didn’t intend to hurt his parents, but he did! Didn’t he informed the whole world about his job before his parents?? He did! If his parents get to know about it from their neighbours wont they feel as de-valued? They would!

No one would be there with you throughout your life! Agreed! But then that doesn’t mean that we should always move on if someone ignores you! I believe you shouldn’t be attached to someone ‘deeply’ if you cannot handle the bonding and if you make someone special in your life LEARN to balance all your relations with the same attention, love and care throughout…

Sometimes We Are The Victim Of This Feeling, Sometimes We Victimise Somebody Else!…